Speak to Your Child of Love

I'm sure we all want a good job, no money worries, and time enough on our hands to help others and spend quality moments with our family. But unfortunately this story of abundance, which we are all worthy of, is a distant dream for some.

What's the real difference between abundant people who honour their time on this world with wealth, freedom and purposeful love, and those who spend their lives struggling to find the time and money to live on their own terms?

Here's a hint - it's got nothing to do with education, or intelligence, or luck, and more to do with the little things your parents told you as a child.

What do I mean by that? Well, the only thing you need to guarantee you abundance in life is a mindset that has a strong belief in yourself, filled with love. Our mindset is the collection of concious and subconscious thoughts that shape how we see the ourselves and our place in the world. It's when our mindset is blocked to our potential that we don't achieve our goals in life. What's worse, we fear we lack the strength for the struggle necessary to attain those goals, and don't believe that our hard work will pay off. We forget that reaching the mountaintop is all the more rewarding for the difficulty of the climb.

What causes our abundance mindset to get blocked? The answer is both simple and complex. From the day we are born, to the day we die, society programs us with countless messages and ideas that influence our abundance mindset. Some of the messages are good, but what you may not realise is that many of them are bad and are actually creating reverse abundance. This causes you to reject wealth, love, and even good health, instead of attracting it.

Consider this: As a child did you ever hear your parents complaining about rich people being unethical and greedy? Were you disciplined to believe you would only be loved if you were good? Have you ever read a book, watched a movie or listened to a song that rejected love, dismissed happiness, or called money as the root of all evil?

Whether you realise or not, all these seemingly harmless messages root themselves in your abundance mindset, and sabotage all your efforts for an abundant life. We need to overcome the blocks society has programmed in us and liberate our abundance mindset to become wealthy - in money, mission and love. In this way we can also use our new found wealth to make the world a better place.

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What's more we need to factor this in to the upbringing of our own children, so we are not inadvertently giving them messages that could potentially harm them in their adult life. All the answers we need can be found in the way we transmit our love to our children.

This doesn't mean spoiling our kids rotten, but giving them a sense of self-worth that is as unconditional as your love for them. As parents we are responsible for securing a safe space for our offspring, where they can learn to be themselves, and discover who they are and want to be. We have to let our children figure things out for themselves, and give them the confidence, and courage and the tools necessary to do just that. Subsequently, when the time comes for them to fly the nest, they will do so with strong wings.

Have you ever watched a butterfly in transformation? My brother once found a chrysalis, which is like a nurturing shell where a butterfly lives while it's changing from one kind of bug to another kind of bug. Well, he put it into a glass bottle to wait for the butterfly to break free from its cocoon. When he saw it was having trouble, he reached in and broke the shell open, but in doing so, the butterfly just flopped about weakly and then died. I found out later that this would be a recurring image as I was growing up, because the struggle in youth is what makes strong wings.

And remember, when things go wrong, take a moment to be thankful for all the things still going right, because people are going to judge you no matter what you do. You can be whoever you want to be, as long as you have the right mindset to make certain your actions work best for you.

Yours in love,

Love-Boost Your Immune System

I am in London for Fashion Week, and all I see is style. I've been reminded how style has been trying to shock us - for centuries so I read - trying to make us take a look at ordinary things differently. I still remember Hussein Chalayan's table skirt in 2000!

I love style, especially when it has substance, because it shows passion, and opens our lenses to see things in a new light. Love is a lot like that, too.

Can you guess that love is a subject I'm passionate about :) It's also closely linked to health and wellbeing, another subject that is near to my heart. Embracing love positively can help combat stress and induce healing. It can also boost our immunity to diseases, or give us a fighting chance when we are really ill. How many stories have we read where loved ones have pulled people back from the brink?

Recently, I've been reading about how the strength of our immune system varies throughout the day, with recent studies showing that the time of day we get infected has an impact on whether or not that infection takes hold in our bodies.

James Gallagher, health and science reporter for BBC News, says that our immune system is 'altered' by our body clock, a daily 24-hour routine known as a circadian rhythm, which is something all living things, even bacteria, are subject to. For example we get jet lag when our body goes out of sync with its internal clock.

The immune system needs to first detect an infection before it starts to fight it, and it seems that there are different times in the day it is best able to do this, and so if we knew the times, the logic is that taking medication at these 'peak times' would aid quicker recovery.

It got me to thinking, wouldn't it be great if there was a love pill to give our systems an added boost, to remind us of our blessings and kick-start our fight back to health?

Well, there is a sort of 'pill' in a way. When we physically connect with our loved ones through touching and kissing, it passes the love we feel to the one we love. Even holding the hand of a loved one who is unwell is a conduit that can channel the healing energy of love. Now that's true faith healing.

So, next time someone you love is unwell and reaches out to hold your hand, don't pull away. Look at it this way: It could be the necessary sugar to help the medicine go down.

Well I'm off to enjoy the rest of Fashion Week, until my next post, in sickness and in health, may love always sleep on your pillow and hold you in the hollow of its hand,

Yours in love,

What Love Makes Us Do

Science has tried to answer the things we think love can make us do, especially after the notorious Ken and Barbie murders in Toronto in the 90s, where a seemingly perfect couple went on a murderous spree.

The girlfriend, who by all reports had normal childhood, had defended her out-of-character compliance with her abusive boyfriend's psychotic crimes as acting out of love.

Can falling in love lead to acts of evil? Forensic scientists have looked at the factors that contribute to individuals committing evil acts, and at the reasons accomplices give. Science seems to give an unlikely answer - love.

Is there a link between love and violence?

Dr Helen Fisher, an anthropologist who studies couples head over heels in love says:

Love is an obsession. You can't stop thinking about the person you love. It's a craving. Romantic love is like an addiction, the brain gets hooked.

First the couples are interviewed to make sure they meet one specific requirement - such intensity that a human being would literally do anything to win their partner. Dr Fisher says:

When I interview these people I need to know they are madly in love. Do they laugh too much? Do their eyes sparkle? Do they look as if they have too much energy? What percentage of time do they think about each other when they're not around? Do they get any sleep? I was looking for personality changes. We can become exceedingly impulsive, show dependency, craving, a willingness to take risks, the absolute blindness to their partner's flaws - and my last question was always the same: Would you be willing to die for him? And invariably they would say, Yes.

Her studies suggest that it is there is a sense of elation and euphoria that love makes us feel via the neurotransmitter dopamine which links it to addiction. If Dr Fisher is correct, then the same physiological forces that control love and addiction could lead to violence.

She describes romantic love as a positive addiction when things are going well, and a negative addiction when things go bad.

Most of us can control ourselves. We're not willing to go and murder or stalk somebody. When we can't control ourselves is when romantic love can lead to chaos. The violence associated with romantic love is staggering. The suicides, the homicides, the crimes of passion all stemming from this primitive brain chemistry for romantic love. There's nothing as violent as love. Nothing.

It may just be an argument over semantics, but I believe that Dr Fisher's description is not of love, but a corruption of love. Anything abused becomes a corruption of its true self. Using the euphoria that love can create in us to enslave someone for their own evil ends is a perverse ideology, which is in direct contradiction to the true purpose of love - to connect and heal us, not harm us.

Regular readers of my blog will know the faith I have in the healing properties of love. It is not love that hurts, but the things we do in the name of love - when love does not ask it of us.

Love does not make us hurt others, nor does it ask compliance towards orders that commands us to hurt others.

It is a terrible truth that if we want to stare at the face of evil all we need to do is look in the mirror. The Ken and Barbie murders are really a very fundamental question about the nature of good and evil, and how that can pervert love.

The transformation from girlfriend to partner in crime shows quite clearly that anyone can be led to commit unspeakable acts in an abusive relationship, suggesting that evil is really an absence of love, not a cause of it.

It serves as a warning that we need to learn about real love, and how to recognise and embrace it in our lives.

Yours in love,

Stay Forever Young with Love

We are always on the lookout for the all too common signs of our body ageing - wrinkles, sagging skin, weight gain, memory loss, low energy and sex drive. We will try various methods to cleanse our clogged up systems to try and reverse the signs of ageing, but it feels like an uphill struggle. Time has the advantage over our bodies, and it always will. But the human obsession with youth and the cosmetics industry perpetuates this self-destructive behaviour of trying to recreate an illusion.

There is no Dorian Gray magic or elixir to physically keep us youthful. We can completely change our diet to one rich in raw and whole foods, lean protein and detox juices, try and cleanse our body of toxins and free-radical damage - that so many now say is the major factor that causes wrinkles and other symptoms of ageing - but it will feel to many of us that we are fighting a losing battle.

Looking after your outer beauty isn't a bad thing. Every heart longs to stay forever young. But we throw our money on the latest creams, chasing the dream of youth. Many of us are suckered into commercials and miracle stories of housewives that have discovered the latest cream or method to literally melt the wrinkles away, when really we should try and be happy with who we are. When we feel unloved, or have no love for who we are, then we are looking at ourselves through our insecurities.

In these instances there is no cream to rub on the heart to keep it young at heart, except for love. It is only captive to time in its physical sense, but in all the ways that matter, love is the real fountain of youth.

If we have wrinkles in our heart and soul that we don't bother to iron out, then it doesn't matter how beautiful we may become, we will always see ourselves as ugly when we look in the mirror.

Recognise any of these symptoms? We look in the mirror and wonder, Who is that person looking back? Or we begin to think that perhaps the years have not been good to our face. Or maybe there's a new line or two that's just shown up, which concerns you. Do you feel you need to take action and reclaim your face, wanting passionately to revert back to your childhood, when things always seemed better?

But could it be that, more than the changes time has wrought on our face, it is our outlook that somehow influences the way we see ourselves today? If that is true, then our horror at seeing a wrinkle we never thought was there before, may just be the way we have changed over time to respond to life's events.

We need to believe in the power of love with the simple faith of a child, and awaken the child that still lies dormant in all of us who have forgotten what it is to be young. This is real rejuvenation, that will bring the person that used to smile at you in the mirror back again.

It is also important to keep your mood/attitude/vibration up to attract the things you want. This is true regardless of whether you want to attract your twin flame, more wealth, a new job or better health. You can't achieve any of this without bringing the positive influence of love into your life - at least you can't sustain any of it with any degree of happiness.

Happiness and love are the only wrinkle cleanse diets that really work - they are the only gurus you need through your walk in life to help you stay truly young at heart. As the song says, money can't buy you love, because love is priceless. The real thing is something no amount of hard cash can buy.

Yours in love,