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Click here to attract your own twin flame NOW!When you think about it, our lives are so fragile and yet we are so willing to commit our lives to another for a lifetime. We have a human need to interact, and we are driven by this need, but do we sometimes mistake this need for true love? And how can we tell the difference between the two?
It is the stuff of popular fiction: You search for that certain someone. You know that you'll never find anyone else like them, because like everyone else, there is no one quite like them - but you want to find some opposite them, that mirrors or compliments you. If you believe in twin flame love, you believe "the one" is out there for you, but we're all attracted to people all the time.
A lot of men and women are clearly friends, but often one of them will be harbouring some form of attraction for the other. It may never be consummated for the sake of friendship, but some even blur the separation between friendship and sexual relationships, as with the so-called "friends with benefits". But is attraction only the germ of sexual frisson? What is it about the science of attraction that governs our lives?
What is it that attracts us to others, and what is it that others find attractive about you? With millions of people to choose from, why is it so difficult to find that perfect someone? Or if we're in a relationship, how do we know if that person is the right on for us? The media, social pressures and human nature itself have turned it into a mystery.
Walk past the magazine rack at a grocery store, and half of the women's magazines offer to help you answer the mysteries of attraction, though they usually phrase it the opposite way, as in, "Is he the one? Our quiz will tell you!" We're surrounded by images of celebrities and glossy perfection. We're given rules about dating through books, websites and the press. They all pressure us to conform to an ideal of what is attractive.
When we meet a person for the first time we undoubtedly draw a conclusion about them. For twin flames, it is said to begin with the eyes, but in general we make a judgement on what type of person we think they are, and possibly subconsciously we decide whether we like them or not. But is it possible one aspect of their personality, one trait or detail can affect how we perceive them? Would we judge a generally good person as bad, because of their views on religion, or a joke in particularly bad taste, or how much money they have? And is the reverse true? How good is our judgement really?
We may stay in a relationship which is bad for us, because one good quality blinds us to the negative aspects of our partner, or makes them seem more positive. This is known as the "halo effect" - when one good quality spills it appeal on to other elements of a person's character (like in processed foods where one "healthy" ingredient may hide a multitude of sins). Some say that a belief in "twin flames" is risky, because it might create this "halo" effect, but believing in the good will of love isn't a mask we can wear lightly.
We have to be open and honest, and unconditional in our respect for each other, otherwise the love isn't "true". Yet, we all feel pressured to project an image of ourselves that act as window dressing to pull in the crowds. It is a particular problem when it comes to "sins" such as alcohol and food, but we all want to project a positive image of ourselves to the people we interact with.
People also have unrealistic expectations about what other people are doing, or what other people's relationships are like, and that does affect how they treat or are attracted to others. We buy into the idea that great sex is how often we have it, so if we are not making love constantly with our partner, we must be failing in some way. But we shouldn't let high, unrealistic expectations dictate to us how we should be having sex and set up ideas about what is normal. This can disease us against love.
So, the question then is, what should we trust in? In the first part of this three-part mini-series looking behind the "science" of twin flame love, we looked at how the law of physics tells us there is an eternal energy that can neither be added to or subtracted from, but which we process as part of life. We need to process it physically to be "alive" in a sense, and this affects our understanding of what it is to be alive. One theory is that we should put our trust in how we "sense" this energy.
Sensing, the ability to detect and to react to the world outside, is fundamental to life. Every living thing is able to respond to its environment. There are many finely tuned senses that have evolved across the planet as the way we detect the world - the natural and the preternatural. The emergence and evolution of these mechanisms that gather information about the outside world has helped us thrive in our environments; our senses have pushed life in new directions and may ultimately have led to our own curiosity and intelligence, some scientists believe.
Can we trust our senses?
It is said that in order to be human you need life, feelings and senses, and therefore, when it comes to twin flame love, putting our trust in our senses may not sound like such a bad idea - because it can help us see and make sense of our relationships. We are constantly being forced to rethink our whole understanding of the way in which the human senses operate, but trusting and effectively using our senses when it comes to human interaction is a skill we can hardly afford to do without.
To illuminate the world of the senses, imagine yourself in pitch darkness. Normally reliant on our sight, the darkness can feel like a different world, where we have to rely on our other senses to form a picture of our environment. Our other senses, particularly hearing, becomes heightened to help us do that - we will focus on sounds we might otherwise miss when our world is illuminated. It is a perfect example of how are senses are vitally important to allow us to live the lifestyle we do.
As well as the dominant senses of hearing and sight, we have a range of other senses, touch - which is really a mixture of sensations such as temperature, pressure and pain - and then there are chemical senses like smell and taste. We share those senses with almost everything living thing on the planet today, because they date back virtually to the beginning of life on Earth. For instance, simple organisms living in water will detect and respond to their environment by using touch in the same way living things have been doing for over a billion years. They do this with no known form of nervous system, but by using electrical energy.
The mechanism that powers the touch response of simple organisms lies at the heart of all sensing in animals and is based on an electrical phenomenon found in nature. An electric current is a flow of electric charge, and for that to happen you need an imbalance between positive and negative charges. Usually in nature things are electrically neutral, the positive and negative charges balance out exactly, but there are natural phenomena in which there is a separation of electric charge - the thunderstorm is a good example. Such a separation creates a voltage between the clouds and the ground, and because nature abhors an imbalance it will try to correct this by having a flow of electric current. In the case of a thunderstorm, that is a bolt of lightning.
At some point between the sense and the brain something similar happens; it's the same process that governs and powers our very cells. Although the same electrical mechanism underpins all sensing, every species has a different suite of sensory capabilities that is adapted to the environment they live in. In humans, some argue that twin flame love is a potential battery for power, too, and as we use our senses to make sense of our surroundings, we can use twin flame love to sense (and make sense of) our Self.
Can twin flame love help bring balance to our sense of Self?
In terms of human interaction, love can hit like a thunderbolt, too; it sharpens our senses, somehow makes us feel more human, and more alive. But whether that love is the "one and only" or whether it is born out of some temporary need, for longevity both need to be sustained in a relationship. It is a very rare relationship where at some point our hope and faith is not shaken, because it is based on the sensitivity of our senses. The electrical charges given off to bring balance and equilibrium to a relationship can be tiring, and although feelings are a pathway to self-discovery, it also leads to as many questions as it does answers.
Our sensory world maps our universe, a heady mix of tastes and concentrations, flavours and gradients; the way we perceive the world is determined by our environment, and no two creatures see the world in the same way. Like every other animal, we have evolved senses that enable us to live in our environment. Our senses helps us to build up a picture of our world; they equip us for present living and score us an advantages over our habitat. There is a phenomenon of the blurring of the senses called synaesthesia - where people who suffer from it use it to there advantage to perform amazing feats, for example of memory, because words will have taste to them.
It can also help us understand our distant evolutionary past. All sensing has evolved with one specific function to provide us with the information we need to survive - and nowhere is this more clear than with the sense of vision. Ninety-six of all species can see, and every eye on a molecular level works the same way to detect light, telling us it's a very ancient mechanism shared by a common origin or ancestor.
This leads us to the cutting edge of scientific research, as scientists try to pinpoint that common link, but what is certain is that the basic chemistry of vision has been established for a very long time. It took tiny steps of evolution throughout the Earth's expansive time-line to have a fully functioning eye that creates a vision of our world, and to make humans the visual animals they are today.
To make sense of all that visual information, we need to process it. However, our brain would be overwhelmed if our eyes took a series of still images and sent them to the brain, and the function of our visual system is not to transmit images, but information to the brain. So instead, our visual systems have evolved to extract only the information that is necessary. A study of Neanderthal skulls suggests that they became extinct because they had larger eyes than our species. As a result, more of their brains were devoted to seeing in the long, dark nights in Europe, at the expense of high-level processing.
At first sight, simplifying the visual world into relevant bits of information is something we all do. Thus, we all need to see the world differently for our survival. How we perceive love through our environment, and through past relationships will differ greatly from person to person - even twin flames, and as a result affect how we perceive with love. Thus, although twin flame love is found, it still has to be "made" in a relationship. How easy or difficult this will be, all depends on perspective - how we look at things in relation to the bigger picture.
Love is a process of the senses
Looked at philosophically, it is easy to assume that we humans look at our world in an objective way, but that's not the case at all. We see the world as reflected light and hear the world as a myriad of low and high scale frequencies, but how do we feel the world? Through love, through the "heart" so to speak? But what evolutionary advantage do our hearts confer on us? Is the drive that gives us meaning, the will to live? Although we are dominantly visual beings when it comes to finding our twin flames, it doesn't mean blind people, or people with missing or mixed up senses, do not have twin flames. Other senses such as "blindsight" is said to make up for them, and each unique challenge in a twin flame relationship will have its own purpose.
It might even be an advantage. Indeed often our vision can be clearer if we "see" with the heart. It has been said that to have a good grasp of life, we need humour, joy and some laughter that comes from the heart, and why else do we close our eyes when we pray, cry, kiss and dream? Because the most beautiful things in life are not seen, but only felt by the heart. But what are the connections to the subconscious mind? What is the mind/heart/body connection? We have heard of the "battle" between the brain and the heart when it comes to love - but is there one when it comes to the senses, too? We need the brain to conduct the senses, but do we also need the heart to "feel" them?
And who really knows how the human heart works? Many are confused by or have misunderstood what the "heart" is. Are we talking about the heart organ, or are we talking about the energy centre in the area of the heart? What are the differences? Or is it just all one involuntary muscle activated by electrical impulses, generated by feelings which we go on; like a human caldera; stony on the surface, with volcanic chambers of nervous energy and self-loathing churning deep below. Some say the heart indeed goes have a mini-brain of its own that helps regulate our mood, but in psychological terms, when we attend to sensory inputs, we can focus and become more aware, and understand life and the world around us better.
Some spiritual approaches talk about "mastering" the senses for more control over our lives. When we attend and tune our senses to our twin flame relationship, for instance, we can get in contact with the core of our twin flame partner, and thus create a stronger link we can put our trust in. Focusing on our senses can heighten our feelings and emotions that help us bond with a loved one, while sex is also a vehicle for sensing and attending to our senses.
As our bodies are governed by the physical laws, so, too, our relationships our governed by laws. When we create a healthy environment in which a relationship can grow, this is the best way to sustain the love we have. There is no better science behind a long lasting relationship, and it is one which adheres to what makes love the twin flame kind. This also makes us intelligent to the workings of ourselves, and what we need to do to make our relationship last and overcome any challenges.
As sensing has played a key role in the evolution of life on Earth, there is thought to be a link between sensory processing and evolutionary intelligence. The first organisms were able to detect and respond to their immediate environment, and as animals evolved and their environments became more complex, their senses evolved with them. Now, our senses let us decode vibrations and detect life, allowing us to build a three dimensional view of our environment, and stimulating a growth of brains that could handle all that data.
For example, to be able to visually extract more information requires more processing power, which requires a bigger brain. The evolutionary drive for greater processing power is about making the most of the information our eyes can provide. For humans the desire to gather more and more sensory information has become overwhelming, where we look to the stars and look inside to expand our horizons with sight that uses our eyes and our hearts. The more enlightened we become, the more awakened our senses become, the more aware we are of our surroundings in ever increasing levels.
We now know there is more to the universe than just our own galaxy; and we use technologies to extend the reach of our senses further than we could have imagined. Telescopes have helped us perceive and comprehend stars and planets billions of light years away. Similarly, we can use spiritual approaches like meditation or tantra to extend our senses in our twin flame relationships. There is great feedback in our senses. Scientifically, the increase of the amount of data delivered by our senses drove the evolution of our brains. Those increasingly sophisticated brains became curious, and demanded more and more data.
To this end, we built gadgets that were able to extend our senses beyond the horizon, which showed us a universe billions of years old, containing trillions of stars and galaxies. And our senses tell us that it is our insatiable quest for information which is the making of us, and our insatiable quest for love that is the drive to push us to greater things. We can use our brain to develop some remarkable abilities, and love shouldn't be a battle between the head and heart, but a twin flame relationship in itself, complimenting each other in harmony.
This is true, because if we are to exist then we need to find ways to understand ourselves and the truth of the world we live in. And truth, like love, exists, because only lies are invented, and love is not an invention on the part of wishful thinkers. Science has shown us that it is too complex for that. And to the cynical, love might seem like a germ that infests us or confuses our senses, but even if that were true, it is a germ that doesn't need eliminating, because like our senses, it's a fundamental part of what makes us human.
Read the complete three-part series: -1 -3
Yours in love,
