Be One of the Happy People

My twin flame is one of those affable guys that you're always glad to see, because he always seems happy to see you. He asks about your family, business, and friends. He is happy to talk about his life too, if you ask him. And when he does, it is always positive and amusing.

He has a great sense of humour. He is always light-hearted, and his light touch has an awesome power. He is never mean. The unsaid theme of his humour is that you will always be in on the joke, and not the butt of it. His eyes are always smiling, and they always seem to be saying, "This doesn't have to be at all serious. Let's make things fun, let's enjoy the journey."

I know I'm lucky. There are so many people today unhappy with where they are around me, and it's like why are you always smiling? I smile because my twin flame makes me smile, but more than that, I look at my life through lenses that show me where we are today is neither good nor bad. What brings us joy or brings us down is the meaning we attach to it.

If you don't have a lot of money in the bank right now, you'll feel terrible about it, and it's because of the meaning you are attaching to that money. My grandmother once said to me that unless you can lend something or give something away then that thing is controlling you. We are so afraid of sharing, of putting some good out to the world, that we tighten our grip on what little we think we have.

Here's an analogy, imagine some water in the palm of your hand; if you have your hand open, it just sits there in your open palm, but as you begin to tighten your grip - as you strengthen your grasp - the water alludes you and falls away out of your grip.

“Cast thy bread upon the waters: for thou shalt find it after many days" is an expression from the Book of Ecclesiastes in the Old Testament. It calls on people to believe that their good deeds will ultimately benefit them, because we get as much out of the world as we give back to it.

That's just the human way it is. As human beings we have rights, and being a human being gives us the right of fraternity - to be cared for by other human beings. It's only natural; charity and kindness is the only thing that keeps human beings from being human animals. And it's the happy ones that force us to love, think, and feel for others, because their happiness isn't tied up in outer riches, but inner wealth.

Laying all your bets for happiness on to things outside of you is a big gamble. If we keep putting our joy in perishable goods, then it too will perish with every fad piece of equipment that we think we need to get our hands on. It will be like trying to grip that water in the palm of your hand.

True happiness comes from within when we realise that happiness is not an attachment to things, but a detachment of them. It is a higher level of conciousness to realise that we can be happy, content or joyful at this very moment just by being here in the moment - we can choose to feel this way in an instant. Once you realise this, you realise that you don't need things on the outside to bring you joy.

Of course I haven't always been one of the happy people. As REM's song says: Everybody Hurts - but that's just the point, everyone does. I remember in my first term at university, I was wracked with absolute gut-wrenching homesickness, and I heard this song on the radio late one night. It was like a light-bulb. It wasn't just me, everybody goes through insecurities. It made me realise that it was OK to be missing home, but that it was going to work out if I just hung in there and stayed the course. I saw REM live later that year, and hearing them play Everybody Hurts, with 100,000 other voices in the crowd remains a very special memory to me.

I know life isn't easy. During our lifetimes we may see some terrible things that could take the wind out of anybody's sails. But because I am a romantic I still believe we have the potential to be nobler than we know and better than we think. When we put our faith in goodness and love we understand that the darkness we see is only a shadow on the potential of the human heart. The real tragedy is if we let that shadow shake the compass of our heart in our search for the better things in life.

But life isn't just about searching for things. We search so much for the right choices, the right paths to walk, the right time, the right reasons, and the right person. My blog is all about finding and attracting your twin flame, but it's also about letting the unexpected happen and finding joy in things and people we never searched for. My twin flame always treats life as an adventure, and you know what? It really is.

Only the other day he showed me a picture of an American road sign he found on Google Images seemingly pointing the way to a land of make-believe. "You write stories, that place would be perfect for you," he told me. You just have to love the idea that you can take the slip road off a motorway to a place where all your dreams will come true. We found out it's actually an amusement park in the appropriately named Hope Township of New Jersey, but it shows me that my twin flame's compass is still pointing to his true north.

A compass is essential for everyone on this journey, and you can never nudge the moral compass far from its true north without losing something vital. Walking away from our own moral compass when life hardens us is a tragic mistake, and I would urge everyone to keep their heart's compass on the true north of their dreams.

Be free to be romantics, to reject cynicism, to believe that good will prevail because when the shadows come, as they come to all of us sooner or later, these are the things that sustain us. Negativity only aids to block our mindset for happiness, love is the only lasting joy.

And being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means you've decided to look beyond imperfections. Although, from the start of this post, it might sound like my twin flame can do no wrong, he is far from perfect - but I love his flaws, too, because without them he wouldn't be the person I fell in love with.

Therefore it seems only fitting to end with one of his favourites sayings: The happiest people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything.

Yours in love,