Wednesday 23 May 2012

Trust in Twin Flame Love

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In my "Facing Challenges with Your Twin Flame" post I wrote that every relationship - even those with your twin flame - will throw up challenges for you to face.

There are many reasons why twin flames undergo an often temporary time of physical separation after the initial meeting. It is believed that when twin flames first meet their souls alight in the flames of love. But then for some relationships there comes the troubles, the conflicts, the arguments, the hot/cold behaviour, the confusion, the feelings of so-called craziness - the list goes on. But why does this happen? Why, when there is so much love, is there so much conflict and running away from each other?

Experts on twin flames will tell you that this is a soul connection and our souls are made from pure love. Think about it for a second, our souls are love, in it's purest form. Our souls are so eager to reconnect us with our twin flames in the physical, you'd think it would be simple. But, we are each individual, and there are those that believe there are many lessons to learn, many tests to take before we can fully unite with our twin flames.

First there is the ego and all the preconceptions we have about the way we think love should be. But this is soul love and therefore it doesn't fit into the earthly creations of romantic relationships - it goes far beyond that, therefore it is impossible to try and limit the love by forcing it into a purely romantic setting. This is placing conditions upon our love. The soul loves unconditionally and until we enter more into our soul-consciousness, our souls will keep repelling, because we are placing expectation and conditions upon the connection and this is not pure love.

This means we have to cultivate our soul to a level of awareness that can accept the truth of true love.

Twin flames are reflections of each other, of Self, so it is said - and they show us everything about ourselves that we don't love, accept and what needs healing. When these inner blocks still remain, they will continue to be reflected between the twins and yet again it will repel them to go their separate ways again until we look inwards and heal inwards individually.

Often twins run because there are parts of themselves they don't love or accept, and they can't handle seeing these things illuminated through the connection. They don't feel good enough and are afraid that if they get close, the other twin will see these parts of themselves (they are trying to deny or hide) and reject them. This rejection, they believe, would crush them and prove to them the very things they detest about themselves to be correct. They run from their own fears about themselves.

However, this is often subconscious, and the twins point their fingers at each other, and blame the other for the breakdown of a physical relationship. But experts say this is a learning curve that has been pre-determined by both twin flames before they incarnate, to help them learn and grow the most. The physical separation forces the twin flames to eventually look deeper within and awaken more to their soul-consciousness and realise that it is about healing the self.

We must find ourselves before we find true love; we must learn to love ourselves before we can love our other self.

Depending on the individual, sometimes it takes time for twin flames to trust in the love. As the attraction comes about immediately and so intensely, it often goes beyond the logic we are taught to trust in, rather than emotion and intuition.

Many twins feel the transformation happening within them, as they awaken more and more to their soul-consciousness, but try to fight it because they are afraid of the unknown. They believe they are happy (or at least comfortable) at how they had made sense of the world before meeting their twin flame - it fits into most other people's views too.

They wonder how they could survive if they suddenly allowed themselves to trust in intuition and soul and spirituality. Won't people think they are mad? Won't they lose friends and even family? What if they are married, won't their husbands/wives think them mad or bad? They feel so alone, so confused and think they are mad. So they run, to save themselves the trouble.

But as they run from the connection, their twin flame and themselves, they begin to lose themselves, and close up their heart - becoming numb, depressed, and lost. On the surface they try to make out everything is fine. They are desperate to make everything fine, and bring their lives back to some so-called normality again, because they fear they are weak to believe in this twin flame love - especially when they think the twin has hurt them so much (or has the potential to hurt them).

They cannot yet see that it is their own inner hurt, their own inner rejection that has caused so much pain. But their inner numbness becomes very frightening, their depression very real. People can see they are changing but they cannot tell them why - no-one would understand.

So they begin to feel more and more alone, and they are pushed deeper into themselves, into their emotions. But this is where their intuition is and where the inner knowing of the soul-consciousness resides. Eventually the fear of losing themselves will become bigger than the fear of facing up to their inner issues.

As the saying it is darkest before dawn can ring so true, sometimes twin flames need to feel the deepest depths before they accept there is another way into love, into freedom, into happiness.

But the path leading to that can be very rocky and will be for a reason, to help them trust in themselves more and love themselves. Trusting and knowing yourself is important, so it can be reflected back between the twins for reunion to occur.

But what practical tips can we use in such situations to get lucky in love and better trust our partner? Below I provide some guiding tips that will help not only twin flames, but general information for everyone looking to capture someone's heart.

How to be lucky in love

Unlucky Eros shot with his own arrowsAre you known amongst your friends to entertain with amusing and unsuccessful love stories, full of woes, bizarre dates, nightmare situations and that one with the funny leg? If so, you could be suffering from a universal self-sabotage syndrome that psychologists call emotional masochism.

Basically: It's as if each of us grew up feeling comfy with a certain level of happiness. Some of us are used to 90%, others only 75%, others only 17%. The point is, when this concentration shifts upwards - then a lot of us start to feel twitchy, because this new zone feels very unfamiliar. We instinctively do what we must do to muck up our love life so we can shift our happiness concentration back down, down to our familiar zone.

So how do you break free from the shackles of emotional masochism?

You must 100% accept that you do a lot of the silly things you do because of your insecurities and some negative past or childhood issues you may have. It is after all much easier to be miserable, and to sneak up and kill the dragon before it wakes. My advice is, you're a lot bigger and braver than you were in the past, so take a deep breath, wake the friendly dragon and let it show you a different side.

After you get done blaming your past for pain, you must accept some responsibility. After all, you've been an adult or adult-ish for a while now. Although your troublemaking subconscious has gotten you into some painful relationships and situations, the time has come for you to show your cerebrum who's boss and stop allowing those painful misadventures to get in the way.

Here's how:

  1. With my 90 day mind healing programme you can release resistance and get rid of negative emotions, but next time you're tempted to settle for a pattern of pain, repeat the following mantra: I am not my past behaviour. I am not my past failures. I am not how others have at one time treated me. I am only who I think I am right now in this moment. I am only what I do right now in this moment! (But maybe not out loud on the bus.)
  2. Talk with your friends, family members you feel that you can be open with about this concept of emotional masochism. Chances are they will probably throw their arms up in the arm in pure jubilation and relish in the fact you've seen the light. You'll find that the more you can be honest about repressed feelings and share them, the less troublemaking your subconscious will need to be.
  3. Recognise that you have triggers that remind you of past pain and might thereby create a downward spiral of negative thinking and behaviour. Clear your life of these triggers! Instead, get "trigger-happy" and focus on positive triggers that remind you of all your happy relationships. If suddenly you feel yourself wobble, listen to a song that reminds you of a great time with friends, call someone that makes you laugh, think about something that makes you smile.
  4. Finally, there's an added sneaky reason why painful patterns form: A theory à la Carl Jung, a great psychological thinker. He believed that our lives need meaning and purpose. If we don't have meaning and purpose, we acquire a bad habit in order to create drama and excitement. Jung called these patterns of pain "low-level spiritual quests". The good news: You can more readily dump negative patterns by developing a high-level quest - a driving positive force that drives you forward. Meaning? Often, it's easier to dump negative patterns in love if you develop an exciting hobby. Consider taking up cycling, skydiving, scuba diving, exotic cooking, going to gigs, tennis. And who knows - maybe in the process you'll find someone wonderful you can share your stimulating new hobby with!

How to trust your partner

So, once you've won your lover's heart, you might find that your past issues can still adversely affect your relationship. Below I share information on how to deal with trust issues in a relationship and how to trust your partner.

Lack of trust, or what some call doubt, is a mental illness that affects many relationships negatively. Lack of trust is a huge problem that can ruin the relationship. Lack of trust could lead you to start checking your loved ones mobile, purses, cars, clothes, watching them, and stalking them among other things.

A lack of trust makes you live in fear, worry, and distress. It also could lead you to depression among other mental problems. If you suffer from this illness, which is called lack of trust, then you need to learn how to overcome it, otherwise, it will ruin your relationship with your partner.

If your goal is to learn how to build trust in a relationship, follow the below steps:

  1. When you begin to doubt your partner, stop right away and switch the thought to a positive one. Stopping the thought as soon as it starts is one of the most effective ways you can do to overcome lack of trust in a relationship.
  2. If you have witnessed something that makes you doubt your partner, then talk to your partner about it in a calm way. Communication is the key.
  3. If you have seen your parents deal with a lack of trust issue, then it is better to start working on healing yourself, work with a counsellor or a life coach. Research shows that many people who lack trust in their relationship do so because they learned to doubt their partners from seeing their parents not trusting each other. Therefore, to build trust in a relationship, you need to start healing yourself and changing your mental habits.
  4. Learn visualisation (with my 90 day mind healing programme) as it is one of the best ways to relax you and will help you get rid of lack of trust issues. When you are relaxed, you can start to visualise yourself that you and your partner trust each other, understand each other, and love each other. Remember, visualisation helps you to program your subconscious mind with what you want to achieve.
  5. To build trust in a relationship, you have to build your self confidence. Many people's lack of trust issues stem for lack of confidence. For example, every time your partner talks to the opposite sex, do you get jealous and start having some doubts? Do you asking questions such as "Does he/she love me?" "Does he/she find me attractive?" "Why is he/she talking to her/him?" "Why is he/she late?"
  6. Learn to be sincere and truthful. Truth is the currency of love. If you have a lack of trust problem now and you have lost the trust from your partner, then don't worry. You can regain the trust from your partner in a few months if you are willing to overcome your lack of trust issues and doubts, you just have to be sincere and truthful.

Yours in love,

Mickie Kent

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PHILOSOPHERKIM said...

Yes it's true that when we run away from our twins, we are actually running from ourselves. For after all, we are mirrors of each other. Our goal is to expose our twins to their hidden, dark nature and help them heal. We shouldn't be judgmental toward them because they are struggling with their own inner fears and insecurities.This is where twins should support each other. But don't worry because after the healing process or the awakening stage, illumination follows and then finally the much awaited REUNION of the twin souls at a divine appointed time.

AngelExpressions said...

I'm thinking I should have never believed in it. I have never felt so much heart ache , pain, trauma and doubt from all of this. I was told I have one but I went through a severe mental breakdown and I feel like I'm losing him because of the time lapse and all the voices saying shut your gob you ain't got him. I'm seriously want to give up. I need urgent help.

beck said...

Is is normal to fear the loss of your TF...plane crash, accident etc

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